What is communication? Communication, as defined bythe Meriam-Webster dictionary is an act or process of using words, sounds,signs, behaviors to express or exchange information to express ideas, thought,feelings etc. to someone else. A one form of the latter is talking.Communication, with its other form establishes human relationship.
Eric Berne (1996; Cacho, Kawi and Versoza) proposedthat the 4 communication styles: assertive, passive, aggressive and lovingdepicts the ego states. An open family has an inclination of developing andmaintaining lifestyle that accentuates communication, patience and willingnessto reach out others. It falls under adult ego, which fosters assertivecommunication style (Goldenberg and Goldenberg, 2000).
If communication isfabricated with conflicting statements that prevent other people from feelinggood about themselves, the critical parent ego state occurs which that resultsto an aggressive communication style. According to Berne, (1966), the child-egostate supports passive style of communication and is considered as felt concept.A felt concept develops a pattern to avoid expressing their feelings oropinions, which protects themselves. The nurturing ego state promotes lovingcommunication style.
The parent/s who exercise this kind of communication styletends to be protective and available for their children. Under transactionalanalysis, the ego states developed to know the consistent observable behaviors(Berne, 1957).Parents are one of the most significant influencesin child’s behavior (Boateng and Cleveland, 2014). The child’s perception ofthe world is shaped by the way their parents communicate to them. Parents whosupport their children are achievement-chaser.
They are the ones who see thecapacity in themselves of being really good as to what they can do. On theother hand, parents who don’t give and/or show support their children have hardtime achieving their aspirations. They constantlyfeel that they are not smart or good enough. (Crandall and Katvosky, 1965).In the Philippine setting, the parent-childrelationship is difficult to explain because of the factors that affect theresident. According to Mendez and Jocano (1975) the differences in religion,culture and education adds up to the feature.
However, in spite of thedissimilarities, the relationship between the Filipino parent/s and their childpossesses a condition of stability in keeping up with their family. Discipline isthe common theme used by the Filipino parents to avoid acts of disobediencethat can result to physical punishment. 74% of the Filipinos support this kindof disciplinary action (Lansford et. Al. 2010). In the words of Alampay (2013) thistheme expresses an authoritarian style of parenting.
Parent’s communication style andResiliency of Adolescent Theadolescent stage is where a young person develops into an adult. Physicaldevelopments become visible because of puberty. An adolescent’s emotionaldevelopment is often characterized with certain clashing of emotions. He or shedemands for independence and yet would still feel unsure about leaving thesafety and security at home. The intellectual development of the individualstarts to broaden. As to social development, external factors such as peers areone of the reasons why teenagers sometimes feel confused and conflicted(Oswalt, 2010). The information cited implies that the adolescent stage can bea pool of overwhelming emotions, unpredictable situation etc.
in which theinvolvement of the parents is important and must be attainable. When an adolescent begun to recognize their identityand is able to make a decisions for him/herself, communication between he/sheand the parents must be openly and firmly established. The certain bond helpsadolescent know how he/she would feel about the changes that may come along theway. It is also an effective way of teaching how to be sensitive to others (Grotevantand Cooper, 1986). The parent’s style of communication greatly affects theirrelationship towards their children.
In the words of Maximo (2011) it becomes arepresentation on how their attachment is formed, together with its level ofintimacy. According to Adams and Gullota, (1983) Trust and commitment are someof the two characteristics that attributes intimacy; it also indicates the needto have someone to lean on and to openly share their feelings with. When it comes to communication, adolescents prefer anassertive and a loving-style from their parents. Adolescents have the abilityto lean on more to their parents who uses the above- mentioned style because ofthe positive impact it gives. Communication that promotes a lot of warmth andcare is perceived by the adolescents as loving style while the one thatpromotes connection towards each other is viewed as an assertive style ofcommunication (Maximo, 2011). Meanwhile, adolescents would less likely go foran aggressive and passive style of communication because of the insecure anddismissing feeling attached to it. In the Philippines setting, according to Mendez andJocano (1975) it is a fact that Filipinos value their families and so, adolescentsview their parent’s style of communication as a loving nurturing and protectiveone for the family.
Resilience is the individual’s ability to cope with challengesand in difficult situation or conditions. In order to succeed in coping with thenegative trajectories, resilience has 2 main key requirements. The presence ofrisk and promotive factors are needed, because it helps to carry out eitherpositive outcome or reduce negative outcome (Fergus & Zimmerman, 2005).
Inorder to manage the promotive factors in the presence of risk, Fergus &Zimmerman, (2005) Garmezy et. al (1984) Masten, et al, (2007) develop the threebasic theoretical Models; compensatory, protective and challenge, to reducenegative outcome.Relationship is important foundation for the youthin building independent living skill. Filipino adolescent is part of thecountry’s future development. However,based on the recently conducted youth survey( National youth commission)reported that the Filipino adolescent isapparently involve in different social problems such as drug addiction and school dropout (Pena& Alampay et.
al, 2003). With that kind of news, open and firm established relationship and supportsmust be accessible for the adolescent Asiancountries in general, subscribe to the idea of collectivism (Biddle, 2014). TheFilipino adolescent conceptualized support as a hands on support such asproviding personal assistance meaning ,for them support is an expressive care,concern and protection( Fernandez, 2011). On the other hand western countrypromotes independence and individuality because they show their support byphysical and verbal (Uba, 1994).
In the concept of the Filipino adolescent aboutsupport, communication is also involved. Filipino adolescents perceived theirparents as Nurturing and caring kind of parent/s that use assertive or loving style ofcommunication, base of the information of the review and related literatureabove, the characteristics of being a supportive parent/s , based on a Filipinoadolescent’s point of view, they must behands on in providing the care that they need, must be assertive to feel theconnection between the parent and the child, (Fernandez, 2011).