Paul Watzlawick, the man behind theinteractional view for communication theory, once said this, and I quote; “Onecannot not communicate”. Every person is born with several needs, suchas the need to eat, drink or sleep. I believe communication is one of the mostimportant needs we have. Ever since the creation of human beings, we have beencommunicating one way or another. The cavemen once communicated through writingor craving in stones. In modern day, we can compare this to for exampleblogging or use of social media.
Ever since then, communication has beendeveloping more and more each day. It has only been getting more helpful overthe years and is continuously changing for the better. However, I fear ourmodern version of communications may be harming us more than it is doing usgood. First and foremost, why do we even communicate? I believe we choose to communicatewith others, simply because as I mentioned earlier, it is a part of us. I oftenask myself this; What would have happened if we were not able to interact withone another or express ourselves in the way we wanted to? Communication ishealthy and the importance it has is major.
If we lack this, it can lead toseveral issues in life that may be hard to solve. Communications comes indifferent variants and it is easier to do now than ever before, with the helpfrom Social Medias. A friend who maybe living on the other side of the world, is only one call or even just onetext message away. Surely, we would all agree to why this technology is a muchbetter and a more helpful way to stay in contact with whoever you like,regardless of the distance. Unfortunately, social media is not all roses. According to a report fromCNN, teens spend 9 hours a day consuming media. This in itself should be awake-up call. As for me, I am guilty as charged.
Many youths like myself draintheir energy and time on social media daily. While I scroll through my Instagram,I often find myself wondering what other useful things I could have used mytime on. Clearly, not everything on the net is useless.
It is after all theinternet that helps us with most of our daily struggles, sadly enough. My parents, as every parent I am sure, often tell me about howeverything was much better before. How they used their time, and how their waysto communicate was more valuable than ours.
Because just some decades ago,everything was different. Obviously, their everyday life was more challengingthan ours considering the fact that they did not have a smart phone growing up.They never had wikihow.com explaining them how to deal with just about every obstacleto come their way. Neither did they have Snapchat to tell them the exactlocation of their friends and what they are up to. Imagine going all the way tothe actual store to buy some clothes. They had a basic and unique way ofintercourse.
The good old face to face conversations for instance. Dad used totell me he was able to understand mom just by looking in her eyes. As cliché asthat sounds it still makes sense to me. I has me wondering whether my generationand I would get to know these feelings? I fear we will forget how to speak toeach other, let alone eye contact. What is even more terrifying is the thoughtof the kids to come not knowing other things to do for fun apart from being ontheir devices. Our innovative ways to communicate may be easier and fancier, but I amafraid we are risking losing the bigger picture. Two months ago, I deleted mostof my social medias. Not only because it had taken control over my entire life,but also because I wanted to see my life without it.
The outcome from thesepast two months was greater than planned. Some of the aftermath was: Much lessFOMO (Fear of missing out). What this applies to is sincerely being anxiousabout missing out on all the good and bad things happening around us. UsuallyFOMO concerns missing out on the drama going on in your Instagram-feed or theparties your friends may be announcing on Snapchat.
Yes, communication is a need inmy life. Nonetheless, our modern version of it is most definitely not. What Ithink we all should do is stop settling for the easier ways. Because certainlyit is harder doing it in person, to say words while looking someone in theeyes. You would feel more emotions and feelings.
The need to open up to someonewould hunt you and your sensitivity will be touched. The fear of human contactmakes us settle for the much asier ways such as social medias. I like to thinkmy words has the best results coming out from my mouth rather than my Facebookprofile.
For this reason, I believe that not all communication is goodcommunication. Despite the importance it carries and it being a part of ournature, if it ends up hurting and doing us more wrong than right, we might aswell live in peace alone. I am all for the development and expansion oftechnology to fit with our constantly changing future. However, we cannot getall sucked up and forget the old, natural ways to communicate properly. If wedo so, we will certainly lose ourselves and even the ones around us.
Therefore,we should pay more attention to what really matters and the beautiful life wemay miss out on, that is outside of these time-consuming devices we carryaround.