Experiencing mentioned in 3.1 Children’s experience of friendship means

Experiencing being a member of a society is
one of the most important parts of any child’s life on a daily basis no matter wherever
places they would be. Children as young individuals socialized to different
people especially those with their age group that they are surrounded with.  This includes children of their age, beyond
their age and adults that are connected
and related to them. Playing is one of the means of children’s act of
socialization as this covers the part of their developmental stage and
developmental tasks.


stated in Significance of Friendship page 112-113 “Children engage in them with
other children, and in many instances,
these children would describe one another as their ‘friends’. Our youngest members of society see their companions at play as
their usual buddies as they are in their pre-gang stage. It is the time in
which the more children they can get along with play will stand as the symbol
to keep them contained with their playmates. They consider other children who
have the same interest with them as their regular companion until they
established a good relationship of
friendship even though they do not fully understand what ‘friends” means to

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mentioned in 3.1 Children’s experience of friendship means a psychological understanding

only for adults but for the children’s best benefit. 


to Robert Selman “, He put forward the
hypothesis that the development of children’s conceptions of friendship would
relate closely to the more general development of social understanding, in
other words, the ways in which children
construe, interpret and represent other people’s points of view.”

His hypothesis in the concept of friendship
among children varies from ages of every child. Primarily the level of understanding of
friendship among children is the benefit of the happiness on their end. The
means does not justify the importance yet for these young members of our


on Robert Selman’s different levels of skill in taking a social perspective
among children he viewed the following: 1) Momentary physical playmate; it is the stage among children 3-5 years of age in which it means
the ‘I play with you, you play with me” scenario in every child. Whoever comes
in their way as long as they enjoy the moment of characterization of the play,
they would enjoy it. 2) One-way
assistance; among children of 6-8 years old ages socializes in a win-win situation in which they consider having
friends is a beneficial factor only. That their friend will do good things to
them only as they are in their “psychological gang stage”. It means they are starting
to find out who among their friends would be good to them and not; and only
those who are good that they will keep. 3)
Fairweather cooperation; is a part of their stages in which they learn to face the
little by little the realities of
friendship. They argue they fight, they
get jealous of attention and others. Thru these different emotions that they
eventually learn that children start to build emotions to establish the real
importance of friendship as part of their lives. At this age, they can eve declared or determined the
term “best friend” as their best buddy as years go by in their lives. 4) Mutual concern; at this stage as
considered as a final stage of their
childhood they see friendship as part of their individuality and personality.
They see other mutual friends as a bond
of the totality of their personality.


to Selman, he sees children’s friendship
developing in a linear and systematic fashion. It
simply means that as the child goes with his or her age his perceptions of the importance of every individual who is
part of their environment matters a lot to each child. Thus, environment explains how conventional and
innovative life to everyone especially to the young ones nowadays. Visual
images play an important role in influencing manner of the relationship between
children and even adults too. What children see serves as their model regardless of the impact it will implicate to the. As they go through their
developmental stages the developmental tasks happen also in which they
familiarize themselves on how to manage lifelong
process not only in terms of friendship but as an individual is managing their socialization aspect in life.




page 118, it was mentioned about the sociological understanding among friends
to children. Playing stands as important role as a tool among children in socialization. They use
play as interactions in finding friends. The more interactive the games or
plays for the children, the more they get the chance of interaction and finding
compatible children of interest that they consider as their friends.

Having friends or establishing friendship
relationship children simply implicates the needs of socialization. It I
somehow related to the symbiotic relationship of human in which starts as they
learn to explore their environment and to discover themselves. Being mentioned
that the relationship among human is comparatively universal with each other.
The age, gender, interests, culture are some of the primary factors in
establishing a relationship and how an individual at very young age interacts with his
environment in the process of learned or acquired social skills.




Woodyer, T. (2013) “Play” in
Bragg, S. and Kehily, M.J. (eds) (2013) Children and young people’s cultural
worlds, Bristol, Policy Press/Milton Keynes, The Open University.


Ash, J. (2013) “New media and
participatory cultures” in Bragg, S. and Kehily, M.J. (eds) (2013)
Children and young people’s cultural worlds, Bristol, Policy Press/Milton
Keynes, The Open University.

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