Everyoneshould hit their child when they discipline.
Right? Well, it is illegal for aparent, teacher or anyone to hit a child in 47 countries and a prohibitedpunishment in school in 124 countries. Yet all around the world, people think apunishment is necessary as long as it’s not severe and, unfortunately, evenencouraged. Hittingyour children makes them think it’s right and OK. Parents are physically biggerand stronger than children. They are smarter because their brain and body arefully developed unlike a child’s. When a parent tries to hit their own child tomake them behave better, the parent is basically telling them that hittingsomeone who is weaker or smaller than you is an acceptable way to get them todo anything. Could this be why children bully smaller children or grow up toabuse their wives? Sometimesadults get frustrated easily or get stressed from work, family, relationshipsetc.
so hitting your child who has been getting on your nerves, will get you toexperience immense relief, which drives you to hit more or harder. Punishmentwill always turn to abuse. Once you begin to punish your child lightly, wheredo you stop? For an example, your child reaches your valuable things, you taphis hand so he can stop touching it, he reaches again and this time you spankhis hand lightly, he reaches it again and you hit harder. You’ve now started acycle to always hit your child harder, the issues then are about who’sstronger, your child’s will to touch it or your punishment not your valuable stuffanymore. The danger of punishment is when a child disobeys, you may feel likeyou have to hit harder until he’s so sore he can’t disobey anymore. Your handbecomes a fist, your folded newspaper becomes a belt, now what once was just aninnocent tap becomes child abuse.
Hittingyour child distracts the child from learning to resolve the conflict in aproper way because they get overwhelmed with feelings of anger and fantasies ofrevenge, losing the opportunity to learn how to resolve it making a punishedchild difficult to handle similar situations or prevent similar situations inthe future. Even though children don’t think properly like adults, they canstill sense unfairness in this word. Punishing your child will create a veryangry child, therefore, making them rebel and feel humiliated. Abuseinterferes with the bond between parents and children as we cannot feel lovetowards someone who hurt us. It only gives you good behaviour from fear but notlove or care. If your child grew up in a very loving caring home but gotspanked once or twice, your child won’t remember any specific happy scenes invivid detail, unlike the spanking scenes.
It’s fascinating how one negativememory can block out so many positive memories. Punishing your child affects youtoo! Once a mother quotes, after spanking her child, “I won the battle. Butlost the war” This suggests that she got her child to do whatever she wantshowever her child now fears her; she now lost her child.